Hi Bridal Diaries Gang! 💌

Just a friendly reminder that your wedding day is for…you!

I know it sounds obvious, but it’s also the first thing that gets lost somewhere between the multiple timelines, family expectations and trying to make everyone else happy.

Of course after all the months (or even years!) of planning you have done for your big day, of course it’s going to be the most special day. However, we really want to maximise how much you actually enjoy it!

Now…there is a version of a wedding you see in photos, and then there’s the version where you actually experience it. And these aren’t always the exact same.

One thing is for sure, the day will go insanely quick! Partly in a fairytale, romantic way…but also partly in a disorientating blur of timelines, questions and being pulled in a million different directions. And this is something that is so common, but also something that can be minimised through some careful planning. Let’s get into it…

Your Timeline

Lets start simple…the overall timeline is key. Now, the overall timeline is built around logistics, how long will it take my hair and makeup artist to get me ready, how long will it take us to do our family photos etc etc. But what’s really important to factor in is space. I don’t just mean space for if your ceremony overruns, I mean space to pause, space to take it in, space to stand in a room, just the two of you, and realise this is your wedding day!!

Build these in to your timeline intentionally, 10 minutes alone after your ceremony, 10 minutes buffer to take a breath before your entrance so you’re not walking in slightly overwhelmed, and please…buffer in some time to eat some of your lovely wedding food!

It’s really easy to skip these parts to prioritise something or someone else on your wedding day, but trust me…these are small changes that make such a big impact in your memories of your special day.

Your Role

It’s really common that when couples don’t have a coordinator on the day of their wedding, they become the manager, the overseer, the solver.

Questions get directed at you, small decisions land with you, you never feel like you can just relax. This is where the right structure and planning becomes invaluable. Whether that’s a planner (you know where to find us 👀), a strong venue team (make sure to be clear what they can do/can’t do in advance!) or simply clear delegation (but not to close family as they will already be so busy), the goal is the same…remove yourself from the operational side entirely.

You shouldn’t be the one answering questions such as ‘where should this go’ or ‘what time is X Y Z supplier meant to arrive’ on your wedding day. You’ve invested so much into your wedding day (emotionally and financially), make sure you’ve got a plan as to how you can actually make the most of it.

Stay Present

This is similar to factoring in time to pause in your overall timeline. This one is all about preparing yourself for the emotions. It’s a huge day for you and your partner and it will get emotional. Instead of rushing through those moments…embrace it.

Walk down the aisle slowly
Take a moment during dinner to just look around and take in being surrounded by all your friends and family in one room
Try to stay together as much as possible, once you are apart, you will both be pulled in different directions, and before you know it you’ll have spent an hour or two apart.

What’s Important To You

And finally, I just want you to take some time to think about what’s important to you, how do you envisage your perfect day…is it:

Having a quiet coffee and a slow morning before everything begins?
Being surrounded by friends and family on the morning and having a busy, music filled, dance filled morning?
Getting ready with your partner to take in every moment together?
Generally having a calm and relaxed day?
Or just spending as much time on the dancefloor as you can?

Whatever it is, prioritise it and plan for it and make it a non negotiable…

Love always,

Pristine Events 🤍